Respect them- You have to show respect to get it. Growing up is hard work and none of us trained on hoe to do it. Your teen are just finding their way as best as they can. They may not do things the way you did or think they should; that doesn’t necessarily make it wrong.
Listen to them-This is key. Listen to them with your goal being to understand them.
Keep an open mind-Be willing to change your ways to suit them at times. You’re not always right. May be they can teach you a thing or two. I know my teengers have opened my eyes to many different ways of looking at the world.
Stay calm-This one’s important because you are setting an example for them to follow. don’t be pulled into their emotional outbursts. Just walk away and go back and talk to them once they have calmed down. Always start with ,”I understand you’re upset because….” Avoid saying what you are thinking , such as , “I’ve given you everything and this is the way you treat me!”