Co-parenting Nightmare Personality Disorder Narcissistic

If you are dealing with a coparenting nightmare or someone with a Personality Disorder Narcissistic and you thought a divorce would finish your misery you are probably correct in some ways but not the ways you think, if you do not have to talk with your ex and you are kind of financially stable. Then, you can have the life you want with ease and move on. But put a kid or two in the picture and a vengeful and scheming ex and suddenly your life is spiraling out of control especially if you are the recipient of the new-found half and half custody arrangements. Long finished is the tender years of the mother getting the children. Nowadays, it’s I want custody. To prevent the further contentious battles judges and therapists believed, let’s just do co-parenting.” Next thing you know, co-parenting classes are popping up and more and more therapists are getting a slice of the divorce pie. Co-parenting seemed an easy out for the courts. But this brings more problems than you think. These become extreme when co-parenting with a jerk. A jerk can be someone with a personality disorder such as selfishness, or a passive-aggressive or any kind of controller and manipulator and can spill the beans that you are in violation of a court order and make your life a total mess if they want. You will not obtain back the clothes you sent your kid in, and s/he might retain back important information that came from school or camp. These are mainstream complaints.

Of corse you can and will do something about it. If you expect it, get ready for it. If you have not yet begun co-parenting, read and study what the courts are doing and what they look in favor of. Expect to be court ordered to go to very bad co-parenting classes. I know one therapist who forces parents to attend at the same time and places them in a room alone with one another if they disagree. This is about as beneficial as marriage therapy for the newly separated. Of course you will be told to not say whatever thing bad to the child about the other parent and of course you will hear something like making schedules and informing the other parent as soon as something comes up and you will hear a lot more like that, but what you will not be told is that co-parenting has become a nightmare for many. What to do? Don’t take it personally after you get nasty emails from your ex. If you allow your emotions to run the show you will want to say and do things that you might regret later down the line.

The courts have now presented us with a not so high-quality approach to guardianship. It forces couples who wish for nothing to do with one another into massive contact agendas. The less you engage in blame, the better for all. The extra control of your emotions, the better decisions you render. Focus on the little details of times and schedules. The online coparenting calendars are a splendid idea. It takes the emotion out of the equation.The greatest thing you can do is get ready. If you had a controlling other half, co-parenting can grow to be an extreme sport. Don’t let that materialize.