Generally, children who are social intelligence (interpersonal) also self smart (intrapersonal). Intelligent self-meaning person’s ability to understand ourselves, how he cultivate ourselves Good emotions and thoughts and act on that understanding.

Armed with these two abilities, the child possessed strong capital to compete in the future, says psychologist and Director of the Supreme Spirit Power Training Institute, Sani B Hermawan, Psi.

But what if preschoolers are reluctant to hang out and look no friends. As a parent, you need to try to trace and find a solution. Perhaps these four things to be the cause:

1. Less supportive environment.
Parents in large cities are generally too “worried” off his son play. It may be that the neighborhood is not child friendly or there is no place or facilities for children’s play, too crowded with vehicles coming and going, so that parents tend to forbid children to play outside the house. Can also live in environments that are too individualistic, such as in the complex form of cluster housing or apartments with no play facilities.

2. Less stimulation.
Environment is actually quite supportive but for some reason the parent too limiting the child relationship. Such as fear of kidnapping, do not want kids to play with certain children, too many rules or restrictions in the home, and so on. Because of lack of stimulation, eventually socializing skills in children was reduced.

3. Personal introverted.
In addition to external factors, there is also a factor in the child of his own. That is children who are introverted personality. Generally, these children tend to be quiet, introverted, prefer to be alone or to play alone, uncomfortable when in a crowd and so on.

4. Prefer an individual game.
It is undeniable children’s games now make it more individual. As computer games that can be played alone or play with others without the need to interact online games such direct. He can be absorbed in himself, “as if” do not need other people. In the long run, this will certainly reduce social skills.

After knowing what the problem is, of course parents should immediately seek a solution for the preschool age children should be encouraged to begin to make friends as widely as possible so that future children do not become less self-conscious because of association.

“Children who can manage his emotions capable of expressing his feelings. This capability starts from how parents nurture him. If your child is sad and crying, then you are banned and considered trivial grief, children learn to hide feelings,” says psychologist Christine Nicholson, PhD.

Research shows parents tend to be more concerned with how the feelings of daughters than sons. When girls feel sad, parents will be more gentle. While the boys forced to always be strong even if they’re feeling sad. The boy should not be used to grief. Parenting like this would make the boys are trained to hide his feelings. They feel ashamed if the show of grief. In the end the boy could not communicate well.

Parents have a role in scored the generation of strong men without fear of showing his feelings. You, as parents, can create a male figure who is able to manage emotions well in a way:

* Draw the child to talk
Boys also need attention and you can talk openly as you talk to girls. Invite your son to talk openly about their feelings. Nicholson pointed out, when home from school, boy you look sad. Immediately open the conversation with him, “You look sad, what is it? Nothing I can do for you? Looks like i really felt that something bad happened at school”.

Use a speech that will make the child tell the story. If the child begins to talk, give support, including respect for his feelings at that time. Provide comments that make children feel they are supported by their parents. Although he was sad and stressed with school work is piling up, she knew that her parents understand her feelings and was always at his side. Do not give lectures on the child, obviously Nicholson.

* Help your child find solutions
“Boys tend to focus on the problems encountered rather than emotion,” said Dan Kindlon, PhD, lecturer at the Harvard School of Public Health who is also the author of Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys.

The task of parents is to teach boys that feelings of disappointment, sadness, anger, fear is natural and teach boys to recognize and accept those feelings. Boys need to be aware of these feelings are part of him, which might be an indirect removal. By understanding the feelings, the boys will begin to accept themselves, and recognize the problem. That way he would been helped to find solutions of the problem, after he could overcome his emotions.

Many parents who actually makes their children to be afraid to read because children are forced to become smarter, and just read books of science or useful book-version of his parents. This indirectly makes children feel compelled to read, when in fact the reading could be an option for refreshing and relaxing.

“Give the type of reading that is appropriate for his age. Thus they will love and passion for reading books,” said John Trihartanto, editor of the book from Erlangga publisher.

According to John, a lot of misconceptions going on reading activities. For example, many parents argue that the comic is not the kind of books that are beneficial to children. “Children will be saturated if they are too often to read formal books that are too heavy for their age. There is no wrong if children occasionally to read comics or magazines. The most important thing is how to develop a love of children reading books on positive and age appropriate,” he explained.

According to John, read a comic book or magazine is also has a variety of specific benefits, including to increase knowledge about things that are happening in the world, as well as stimulate creativity and imagination of children. From comic books or books other than knowledge book, in fact the child will slowly be starting to think creatively. His imagination will thrive from every story they read.

What benefits we get from children that washing dishes every morning or mopping up every morning? What does this mean? That children learn responsibility and discipline. This goal is very good. But do not let this end another negative impact to children.

For example, whether the activity in the morning which is considered normal for adults but for children may be able to draining his energy could have an impact on energy issued children in school. Do not even when the school they should spend enough energy instead becomes exhausted? If I were children, maybe I will also be cranky and sullen every go to school if i have to mopping the floor first. In my heart every day I would probably say “enough please”.

Habituation to elementary school age children do this daily routine can be done gradually, little by little. From start once a week, every holiday, every Monday and Thursday and every day.

If only washing the dishes are perhaps the rational thing to do every day, but if it should mopping the floor too, might be rethought. There are many other ways to get children responsibility and discipline every day at home without causing other negative impacts on the school:

1. Make the bed room before leaving,
2. Storing shoes in place,
3. Store dirty clothes in place,
4. Prepare the agenda for tomorrow’s lessons in the afternoon
day and so on.

Below is the tips so you can be ‘with the children’ :
1. How busy you are be sure to allow time to be WITH CHILDREN. at
least half an hour a day.

‘WITH CHILDREN’ means that you talk WITH your children rather than
talk TO your children, you hear the hearts of your children, you
may also be smiling, laughing, crying, clinging, coloring, story
telling, mess up a room together, cleaning up together. and
others. There are many parents attend 24 hours NEAR their
children but not 5 minutes was WITH their CHILDREN.

2. Do not ever redeem your sin of work by offering a lot of things
(games, cake, gifts) to children in excess, which is more than he
needs, and even your children may not need it. Many parents who
work, not all, often giving their children who left behind to
work with a variety of gifts or nearly filled most of their
desire. It’s not productive for the child’s future. Your kids can
be kids which instant, because of all their wishes are met.

3. Before going to bed, face to her eyes, kiss her forehead, pray
together and say good night

4. Begin each morning with great intimacy to children. Make him up
to laugh when he see you. When you interact with the child even
at tired, which really feel the true happiness is the parent, not
the child.

5. In collaboration with your wife or husband, install a positive
values to children through the story. This is a long-term
provision for children.

But many people agree, reading is one that must be mastered skills of children from an early age, because of low reading ability of children would have an impact on their complete lack of control of science and mathematics.

At this point the question arises whether technical or cultivate reading interest of children to the reading of which should come first, so given his book Glenn Doman in his book “Teach your baby reading” Call of children ages 18 months to four years have a curiosity that is very large, are curiosity not only appears when looking at the symbol contained in the book.

The introduction to the pleasures and love of books can be done by parents from the family environment, and the following tips for kids to loves books :

1. Give a role models to read every day.
2. Encourage children to interact with books.
3. Provide a favorite book in the easy places reachable
4. Take time to listen and guide children to read.
5. Encourage children to the bookstore or library.
6. Create a cozy atmosphere, quiet, and fun.
7. Do not limit reading material but give them direction like the
quality books.
8. Do a little discussion about the book they have read.
9. Create a game that could increase their interest in reading.

Well, the most important thing is we can not force a child should be able to read at an early age, but the difficult is how your child LOVE BOOK, not forced to should be able to read, because the child if already likes and loves books, children are curious to read it, and the desire to learn to read.

Under normal conditions, the effects of caffeine will begin to decrease within 5 hours since entry into the body. However, in certain circumstances such as in pregnant women, part-time or time decay in the body can be much longer that 30 hours.

The longer caffeine stays in the body, the greater the likelihood of side effects it causes. Moreover, if consumed in excessive levels, then the caffeine can increase heart rhythm, trigger headaches, chest pain, anxiety and stomach cramps.

Experts from Glasgow University in Scotland says, pregnant women should stay home to drink coffee caffeine content is not more than 200 mg / day. This means, espresso coffee is not recommended because it is very concentrated so abstracted with very high levels of caffeine.

Research conducted by experts showed, most of the espresso coffee sold in coffee houses in Scotland containing caffeine above the safe limit for pregnant women. Of the 20 coffee shop serving espresso coffee, only 1 that caffeine levels within safe limits.

“The variation is large enough. The low caffeine could still be taken four times a day by pregnant women. But the levels are excessive, 1 cup alone can lead to overdose,” said Dr. Alan Crozier who led the research.

Besides to the pregnant women, other conditions are advised not to consume too much coffee is in young children and people with liver disorders. In that conditions, the liver is not working optimally so that caffeine increases the risk of overdose due to slow metabolism.

* Parents need to have knowledge of Internet
Do not assume yourself too old or too stupid to learn the Internet. Other terms, do not be clueless (stuttering technology). A child may knowingly allow or cause parents do not understand the technology so that the parents thought there was no negative impact from the Internet.

* Put the computer in a place that is easily seen
Sometimes parents feel proud to be able to put in their child’s room a computer that is connected to the Internet. This will actually harm your child because they can freely access sites that are not good without known parents. Instead, by putting in the open, for example in the family room, you can monitor what sites are opened child.

* Help your child can make their own decisions
Because you can not supervise your child 24 hours, familiarize your child to make decisions ranging from small things. For example, decided to use clothing or ask your opinion and where a child’s perspective. So when you’re not there or pornographic sites appear when they can take appropriate action. Cultivate the fear of the Lord, so even if you do not exist, but he knew that God was watching and see what it does.

* Limit the use of the Internet
Do not let your children be too engrossed in the virtual world. Specify how long the Internet may be used and what sites are allowed to access. Explain also why you do this and help children to understand this decision.

* Maintain good communication with children
Take the time to joke with the child and communicate openly. Good communication and familiarity with the child will allow you to instill moral values. You can explain to your children what are the dangers of Internet usage so that they are not easily fooled.

All parents certainly loved their children and try to give the best. But outside influences, one of the dangers the Internet can undermine intelligence and moral values ​​of children so you need to protect your child from the dangers of using the Internet such as pornography and sexual predators.

However, the positives of the Internet turns out to be bad when used irresponsibly. Many children who are addicted to the Internet so that they feel at home for so long in front of the computer will not forget their obligations are more important to eat, bathe and even reluctant to learn. One cause of a child so love the Internet because they get a new experience and they can get comfort. Or they get something from this virtual world that can not be obtained in the real world. In the virtual world he could be someone else is desired. For example, a child who is shy can be easily met through chat or e-mail. In online games, they can make their character a character that beautiful, rich, or anything else that may be different from their real life.

Dangers of Internet Pornography

Even more alarming is when a child is addicted to pornography on the Internet. Within a week there are more than 4000 porn sites created! Truly alarming figures. It not only struck the children, since many adults who are also addicted to pornography on the Internet because it easily and without embarrassment, a person can access and view pornographic images even via mobile phones.

Initially, a child may not intend to look at pornography and will utilize the Internet for a good purpose. However, these porn sites can appear suddenly as a child looking for information materials for school work or for other purposes. A child who is innocent can not judge good or bad a thing, then a child aged 8-12 years are often targeted.

At this age, the presence of a child’s brain has not developed properly. While the front of the brain is the center for assessment, planning, and became an executive who will tell your body to do something. In the hindbrain is a supporter of the forebrain. Here also produced dopamine, the hormone that produces a feeling of comfort, relaxation or a fly on someone.

A child who is addicted will be difficult to stop the habit so that he will do so repeatedly. Children may feel guilty but do not dare to express his feelings to their parents because of fear or a busy father and mother. In the state of anxiety, the brain rotates 2.5 times faster than normal at the time of normal rotation. As a result of this turnover is too fast a child’s brain can be physically shrunk so that the brain does not develop properly. A condition that can damage a child’s future. In addition, the obscene pictures in pornographic web sites, usually will stick and be difficult to remove the child’s mind in the time period long enough.

Sexual Predators Dangers

Internet is also often exploited by unscrupulous irresponsible to trick the children. There are about 750,000 sexual predators every day who use chat rooms (chat room) to get acquainted, then take her to have sex. If not careful, the parties are not liable to steal personal identity that can be used to commit crimes.

Feature of Internet Addiction

The characteristics of a child who was addicted to the Internet generally are will be angry if you restrict to use the Internet. He also tend to be reluctant to communicate with others and is closed or just want to be friends with certain people.

Families have an important role in educating children to be well behaved and polite. Many out there, children who lack attention from his family so naughty and disrespectful behavior. Like now-incessant heavily on news of early childhood, which already consumes a cigarette.

The first thing to be done is to give special attention for your child. Attention is love and our affection towards children. Try to call a special offer for your child. Like to call him “brother”, or something else. This will help your child have a sense of confidence and has its own assessment.

Playing music
This can stimulate the growth of the right brain. And from studies conducted by the universities of Toronto, this can increase the child’s IQ and academic value. In an article why the Israelis to be clever. One of them is still premature since they have been trained to play piano concentration.

Develop a child’s curiosity
Successful education for smart kids will always want to know new things. So rather than get used to it since childhood as a parent you should always show to the child’s curiosity.

That way you do not need to send children to learn this or that. Because himself would be curious. Automatically with the more he learned will make it smart. is that great?

Confidence
Educating children is to make it a good smart confident and optimistic that he can always do something. One way is to participate in sports or social activities. And do not even educate children so that he became less confident.

One example is when a mother criticized her picture because the sky is red instead of blue. It seems trivial. But that’s not a good children’s education. Because children are so afraid of doing something because it is wrong. And the man who never do anything how it might be smart. Some other things that can make children become smart course is to give milk, get rid of fast food and provide a healthy diet, get exercise.